Q- Dirk, I keep getting input from every angle on this person I started seeing. We’re in that weird transition between casual and steady, and a lot of people are making some good points in every direction. It’s ironic but I need advice on taking advice.

It seems like been you’ve consulted everyone except the person you’re seeing. Seek their opinion, because chances are they are thinking the same thing. Then decide for yourself, or seek the advice of those you trust. One thing to be sure of is that you are actively listening. A lot of communication gets lost because people have trouble listening and understanding completely. Feelings are a lot less hurt when there is a sensation of closure, and they are also more intensely expressed when there is a sensation of understanding. Keep in mind too, not all communication is verbal, and it takes a lot time to understand someone else’s body language in and out. So when you are talking to that significant other, choose your words, and actions, carefully to get your whole point across. Even though your words and body language may line up to you, remember that they might be interpreted differently by who ever you’re speaking to, so keep it all clear and what you want should come across once you make up your mind.